Your alternative relationship is self destructive, says Mariella Frostrup. You must tackle the root cause of your unhappy marriage
The dilemma I’ve been married for nearly 30 years to a guy who is outwardly kind and gentle. Our grown-up kids left home five or so years ago. Although my husband is reserved in public, he has a bad temper with me and is constantly critical. As he gets older, he seems to become more controlling and angrier. Now in my 60s, I’m worn out with petty arguments and can’t face retirement with him. He is already retired and wants me to do the same.
My way of coping involves having a secret, long-term (and very loving) relationship with a man who lives far enough away not to be a threat. This man has made it clear he doesn’t intend ever to leave his partner and has always been honest about this. I also spend too much on clothes, books and cosmetics to cheer myself up.
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