We develop traits by using them, writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith, so you can teach yourself to be who you want to be. Just avoid the punishing self-talk
How can I learn to be more adventurous? I grew up in a family who didn’t take risks, and having a disabled sibling meant that much of my early life and activities were limited to things they could participate in. As a teenager, I suffered from acute homesickness and a fear of being away from home, which led to me being driven home multiple times from friends’ houses. It’s only in recent years my trips away from home haven’t been plagued by panic attacks. I now live with my partner of seven years, who has recently told me that he avoids suggesting activities to me because he knows I will say no. He wants me to be more adventurous and I want to be able to share experiences with him. How can I learn to do this when I find novel things so frightening?
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